Tag: ego

Counter the ugliness you see in the world with your beauty. Not more ugliness!

Recently I placed a post on Facebook that I regularly do daily and have been doing for several years now.  I receive many comments and always try to engage with those who take the time to respond or comment but on occasion, feedback is given or questions asked that I feel need to be shared with a broader audience. Not only for clarity’s sake but because of a connection to world events and affairs that we humans take extremely serious is being questioned in light of the message I share in my posts.  This is one such response and my response in return.  I’ve changed the names to protect privacy but extend my appreciation to this responder for speaking what many are thinking but are perhaps too inhibited from expressing!

Here is the original post: “Give way to the mystery that is the foundation of your experience. Embrace love instead, and whatever unfolds, it will carry you through. Lighten the load of all that you feel you must shoulder, especially the burdens of heavy thoughts and resentments. The less you have to think about the less you have to fear.

Ease, always, into life with your wits, kindness, and smile. Life will smile back. Incredible day, Carl”

I received many responses to the post but one seemed particularly heartfelt about the near impossibility of living in such a way amid her view of what’s wrong politically in our country (USA). Particularly with our President, Donald Trump. Here is her (I’m calling her Marie) response:

“Carl, I know this to be true…tell me how to get thru all these heart heavy feelings of hate and anger towards our resident WhiteHouse monster? It’s killing my hope.”

I will make a disclaimer before sharing my response with Marie that I tend to be very direct and to the point when responding to these kinds of questions and may appear to be blunt and insensitive but I want to make the point clear that few if anything we point to at the outside world is ever a reason for us to have our, as Marie states, “hope” being killed.  I will say that most who bear the brunt of my responses are good-natured about it and take it in good stride and I appreciate it. I, in no way, am trying to embarrass or offend but I do want it clear that certain things will get a lot of emphasis in my responses and almost all of those are related to the ego nature that is, very simply, “I am right and you are wrong, and that my joy, peace and happiness is a product of your rightness not being the same as my rightness, making you wrong and me right, but, miserable.”

Here is my response:

“Our resident WhiteHouse monster? You’re making stuff up, Marie, which is what our minds do and it is done under the guise that what you think someone else thinks is actually important. In response to your question, first and foremost, the “resident WhiteHouse monster” doesn’t exist, and more, to the point, “it” [your WhiteHouse Monster] has not done anything to me [or you] that prevents me [or you] from living fully and loving completely! Even those [others] we label “monsters! 

Don’t look for things to get upset about because that is all you will ever find. Ego makes stuff up. Disengage your ego from what you think is going on that “kills your hope,” and all that is left is the love YOU are. It’s hard, I know but just like you mention, “I know this to be true” there’s nothing to “get through” except the nightmare you create in your own mind. Stop listening to others who tell you there are monsters about and that you need to feel anger and hatred and sadness and all the other BS they want to you to accept! You know, there are no monsters! We all do.

I literally love everyone, Marie and I don’t label anyone. Labeling carries a guide, a program as to how you should feel when you do label. I’m so, sorry for this scold, Marie. You and one other has commented in such a way that tells me that you are heavy into contemplation about “how [do] we love what we hate.” It’s tough and I don’t have a pat answer. I just don’t make stuff up! I look at my experience and never judge it! I just live it and it always comes through with wonder, amazement and unspeakable joy. I live without hope and I live without beliefs because both are “made up.” What is, is where it’s at and I do not cloud it with the unreal and if you’re “hearing it” it’s unreal. I love you dear one. I want you to always know that. You, and you alone, own your hate. Try loving it into non-existence! Heart hugs!”

I will conclude with one little add.  Far too, many in the spiritual genre, consider their politics, whatever they may be, to be “spiritual” and take great pleasure in reminding those of “other”  points of view their, so-called “spiritual” nobility.  They could not be more misguided and I will add that this applies as well to religious beliefs, education, and class.  Nothing is more egoic and insidious and completely unenlightened.  The collective ego is always less than the sum of its lowest parts.  It is the lowest form of human affiliation and it doesn’t matter what or who you affiliate with.  Be careful.  Love is without right or wrong and it is the only solution to nonexistent “monsters,” egos, (yours, mine, everyone’s) create. As my original Facebook post says”  Ease, always, into life with your wits, kindness, and smile. Life will smile back. Incredible day, Carl.”