You can’t fix anyone you judge needs fixing, but you can fix yourself from all attempts to “fix” others. What you define as broken exposes your brokenness, not theirs. Kindness is not a shrug of the shoulders and a sigh of disdain. It emanates from a heart that embraces all of life’s nuance and variations and smiles at the pleasure of intermingling, without judgment, those who are not like you. In other words, you should be smiling a lot!
Bozebits
You know, when you love life, suffering disappears. All things you judge right or not right give way to splendor, beauty, and myriad wonders all rolled up in “you,” wholly caught up in your experience. Stories, and all suffering, is stories lose their pizazz when living presently and in love. Close the book on your past or future. Living starts now!
Bozebits
When genuinely engaged in real-time, e.g., present moment awareness, all human interactions, friend or foe, will appear silly and, perhaps, a bit mundane. You may also find yourself giggling that you were once so foolish.
Live with abandon. You cannot fail at life, nor will you be graded in any way for anything you do. Only humans carry around a red pen. Have fun, not fear. Love your friendships and feuds. It won’t affect your success in life, but it will make it more enjoyable.
Bozebits
“Why callest thou me good,” said Jesus to his disciples. Even the “good” you attribute to your nature or the nature of others is an identity only humans formulate. Do you see? No one is good, and no one is bad. Identifying with any trait, attribute, characteristic, etc., that makes you unique only keeps you from knowing anything else that makes all of humanity the immense spectacle it is. And it is a spectacle whose colors reach into eternity!
Unless you see without seeing that “good” is different from what you identify as bad, your experience is destined to be shallow, full of division and judgment, and, effectively, unreal. Who does that? Sadly, we all do. Give up all your identifications, and you will discover “humanity.” It won’t be good or bad, but it will be spectacular.
Bozebits
If you think you must dwell on the past, conjure up your trials and tribulations, you give way to a severe drain on your power, and that will hold you captive to emotionality instead of reality. If you must go to your past, only go to those points where you were empowered, healthy, and whole. Eventually, you will build up enough power to stay ever-present because your reality does not happen behind you nor in front of you.
The real transformation in life is YOU, powerful, NOW! Be present, be strong, be life!
Bozebits
Your mind is a traveler; only its travels are to the unreal. Forward, backward, and all points in between except for the only “point” that matters. Do you know what it is?
Seriously, when does anything real actually happen? Why would you want to be anywhere else than here now? Let the day live YOU, and keep it real!
Bozebits
Psychology, spirituality, and religion seek to give identity to the “problem,” whatever it may be, e.g., neurosis, morality, sin, etc. Whether individually or collectively, identity all too often becomes the “excuse” for behavior rather than the path to healing it. Do you see?
“I now know what my problem is called, and that makes it okay or certainly not my fault because, after all, ‘the devil made me do it.’” All the while, the reality you project and dislike remains, and the ensuing story of this new identity (excuse) begins. The fact is you’re not the identity you have been labeled. You’re the real deal, meaning if you’re a schmuck, you’re a schmuck regardless of the reasons for being so.
It takes a lot of work to be angry, unhappy, rude, mean, unkind, unloving, etc. Having reasons for such states is not an excuse for not doing the work to overcome them. Own what you are, and if you don’t like it, fix it. You’re the only one who can. Transformation to reality happens within but shows its magic without. Resolve to show the magic only you have.
Bozebits
Shouting your position does little more than make you accessible to those at whom you shout. That is, you expose your vulnerabilities, and vulnerability arises from ignorance. It is not intellectual ignorance but the kind that has been taken over by your mind that refuses to see that YOU are other than your shouting attempts to project. Contrasted by “what YOU are,” outcry is but a mask you wear (we all wear) to hide the gulf that is not filled by anything you say, believe, dream, or wish.
“Awareness” only hears what YOU are and nothing you say. There is never cause enough to raise your voice or your ire. It’s always clear when “what YOU are” is in the foreground of your thoughts. There’s less shouting, too. What are you? I’d love to “not” hear.
Bozebits
What you believe is the demise of what is. It throws you into a false fantasy that what you don’t like now can be replaced by something you only imagine. Do you see?
The imaginary pursuit of “something else” takes you out of the present, which is real, and all there will ever be. To “believe” otherwise is to miss that. Don’t miss it! “Now” is too rich and beautiful to waste a second elsewhere!
Bozebits
Imposing your rules on life only serves to interfere with it, and not for the better. Imagine your fist raised against a river’s flow, demanding it change its course. Oh, the hubris to think you have any control over anything. Silly!
Observe “what is” with humility and quiet. Life un-interfered-with is not something you wrestle with by applying your version of what it should be. Instead, it is something to behold with reverence and awe.