The time to stop judging is when you feel most like doing so, which is all the time for most humans. Judging doesn’t put someone else in a corner; it just puts you more firmly in your own. Do you see?
You make the separation from others for little more than inane reasons that reflect learning, beliefs, prejudices, and various other follies humans wrap themselves up in. All at the cost of the innate characteristic everyone possesses to love “life.” That is life, which is all-inclusive of everything and everyone regardless of how you see things, e.g., every cause or belief you hold that takes you from your innate nature to love, including yourself.
In simple terms, you cannot judge and love. Not wholly and purely. It’s not the age-old narrative that you are judged as you judge others. No, it’s that your love drains from you when you do. Oh, and don’t condescend either, with the infamous diatribe that “they (whomever you judge) aren’t at your level of spirituality, education, or maturity. That’s just a sneaky form of judgment as well. All that’s left, really is “don’t judge,” ever!
Bozebits
What voice do you hear? Religious, spiritual, scientific, political, philosophical, psychological, etc.? It’s easy to tell if you’re honest, but most are not. For instance, religious and spiritual “listeners,” whose foundational principles might include “love thy neighbor as thyself” or “we are all one,” often spew venom at the listener with a scientific or political melody and vice versa. Do you see? The problem with hypocrisy is that few, if any, perceive their own while we all wreak of it.
Regardless of the multitudes who believe as you do and with whom you take comfort, your beliefs are not a “get out of jail free” card. Your “rightness” is also your condemnation. It’s easy to see if you look, but will you? Comfort and safety are hard to break free of. After all, everyone’s doing it. Just sayin’. Peace.
Bozebits
Weakness in others is always more apparent than strengths, as we are conditioned early on to be aware of our own, making it easy to point out in others. However, “pointing out” is a deflection from yourself and presumably a haven from others’ discovery that “what you point at” is what you are. You create those you attack just as you do those you uphold and praise.
Creative power is the same either way, but only you disguise one over the other. Are you beginning to see where “division” comes from? It’s not out there in the noise of so-called “weakness.” It’s in what you call your strength. Create and love your creations without distinction; all of them! Love of all heals all.
Bozebits
Your world is as it is because you are continually talking about it being as it is. Do you see? Talking about how it should be, could be, or how you would like it to be reinforces what you think it is. Yes, you can change your talk and thinking too, but that only replaces one thing with another, and the world continues with your “talk” of “how it is.”
Turn it off altogether, talking and thinking. That will give the world a chance to unfold as it does and take you out of making assessments about its unfolding. It will also alter your mood to one of you, happening to the world rather than it happening to you. Best of all, however, is the quiet you experience when you’re not talking.
Bozebits
The motive force of all creatures, including humans, is survival. However, humans have an evolutionary nuance that allows them to make up what they consider essential to survival. Do you see?
All the stuff humans make up about human existence is also all they find wrong with it. You came here with nothing, and you will leave with nothing, and everything you uphold, believe, and gather between arrival and departure is nothing.
You have so little time to experience this miracle of life that anything you wrap yourself up in as important blinds you to its treasure. Living requires no opinion, causes, or inventory whatsoever. You know how to live. Stop listening to all the babble humans make up about how to do so! You’ve got this.
Bozebits
My joy, your suffering. Your point of view, my judgment. My anger, your glee. Your lowliness, my arrogance. My awareness, your blindness. Your love, my hate, my politics, your religion, your education, my weak-mindedness. My loss, your gain, and on and on and on. See a pattern?
All because what’s “yours” is believed, and what’s “mine” is believed. No one can see through beliefs. Thus, while preserving what’s mine and what’s yours, we all walk blindly into a non-existent reality upheld by unbelievable nonsense believed! Can you see?
When you fail to see that the inner beauty of those not like you is different from what you claim yours to be, it’s time to shed your beliefs. They’ve made you blind, and blindness is no way to experience something so grand as life right now in whatever it has served up! Please don’t take my word for it, but do give it a try. You won’t believe it, and that’s a good thing!
Bozebits
Your side, mine, your religion, mine, your politics, mine, your righteousness, mine, etc., are nothing but the context in which you formed your ego, and I formed mine. Do you see? You are right, and I am wrong all because of your context, which I could never have experienced, nor you, mine and in the name of my, impossible to be wrong, rightness and you yours, you, me and everyone can condone and even advocate the most abhorrent behaviors and actions toward fellow human beings.
Some will exclaim, “We are all one,” and retreat into context. Silly humans. “I am right, and you are wrong” as a context for living doesn’t seem to work. Maybe we should try “I am wrong” and leave it at that. I don’t know. I was just (wrongly) wondering.
Bozebits
To the extent of what you know, you may be right, but can you ever be sure if you don’t know everything there is to know?
Question your “rightness” until you are sure that you know more; infinitely more, which, if you consider it, will never come about because infinity is unfathomable and unknowable. A good practice until you do “know everything” is to say nothing at all as a defense of what you “know.” It will make for more “peace” in your life, too.
Bozebits
Don’t judge when in doubt about people, places, or things. When sure, don’t judge. There is no such thing as a non-egoic judgment, just as there is no such thing as righteous judgment. Be active in life; participate and “be about being,” but don’t judge any part of it with any part of your reason or beliefs. When it comes to judgments, you’re always wrong. Me too 😊
Bozebits
The success of the ego measured in rightness. The more right we think we are or need to be, the more egocentric we are. Embracing wrongness, now there’s a twist. Give it a try.