The motive force of all creatures, including humans, is survival. However, humans have an evolutionary nuance that allows them to make up what they consider essential to survival. Do you see?
All the stuff humans make up about human existence is also all they find wrong with it. You came here with nothing, and you will leave with nothing, and everything you uphold, believe, and gather between arrival and departure is nothing.
You have so little time to experience this miracle of life that anything you wrap yourself up in as important blinds you to its treasure. Living requires no opinion, causes, or inventory whatsoever. You know how to live. Stop listening to all the babble humans make up about how to do so! You’ve got this.
Bozebits
My joy, your suffering. Your point of view, my judgment. My anger, your glee. Your lowliness, my arrogance. My awareness, your blindness. Your love, my hate, my politics, your religion, your education, my weak-mindedness. My loss, your gain, and on and on and on. See a pattern?
All because what’s “yours” is believed, and what’s “mine” is believed. No one can see through beliefs. Thus, while preserving what’s mine and what’s yours, we all walk blindly into a non-existent reality upheld by unbelievable nonsense believed! Can you see?
When you fail to see that the inner beauty of those not like you is different from what you claim yours to be, it’s time to shed your beliefs. They’ve made you blind, and blindness is no way to experience something so grand as life right now in whatever it has served up! Please don’t take my word for it, but do give it a try. You won’t believe it, and that’s a good thing!
Bozebits
Your side, mine, your religion, mine, your politics, mine, your righteousness, mine, etc., are nothing but the context in which you formed your ego, and I formed mine. Do you see? You are right, and I am wrong all because of your context, which I could never have experienced, nor you, mine and in the name of my, impossible to be wrong, rightness and you yours, you, me and everyone can condone and even advocate the most abhorrent behaviors and actions toward fellow human beings.
Some will exclaim, “We are all one,” and retreat into context. Silly humans. “I am right, and you are wrong” as a context for living doesn’t seem to work. Maybe we should try “I am wrong” and leave it at that. I don’t know. I was just (wrongly) wondering.
Bozebits
To the extent of what you know, you may be right, but can you ever be sure if you don’t know everything there is to know?
Question your “rightness” until you are sure that you know more; infinitely more, which, if you consider it, will never come about because infinity is unfathomable and unknowable. A good practice until you do “know everything” is to say nothing at all as a defense of what you “know.” It will make for more “peace” in your life, too.
Bozebits
Don’t judge when in doubt about people, places, or things. When sure, don’t judge. There is no such thing as a non-egoic judgment, just as there is no such thing as righteous judgment. Be active in life; participate and “be about being,” but don’t judge any part of it with any part of your reason or beliefs. When it comes to judgments, you’re always wrong. Me too 😊
Bozebits
The success of the ego measured in rightness. The more right we think we are or need to be, the more egocentric we are. Embracing wrongness, now there’s a twist. Give it a try.
Bozebits
Stop living in the shadow of someone you claim has wronged you. We’ve all heard the saying, “Two wrongs don’t make a right,” but if you are holding onto the “claim” of wrongdoing, whether you do nothing else, that is a “wrong” you commit against yourself. Double whammy, and you’re doing all the suffering. Stop it! Get out of the shadows and into the light, and life brightens.
Bozebits
If we continue to see things in terms of right and wrong, we will never resolve the fundamental argument with life most of us have, e.g., “why is life not fair?” Life does not care what you think and why you think it. It moves constantly and inexorably into new horizons that only a mind free of argument can experience. Life is fair, but only a mind that divides it into rightness and wrongness will question it otherwise. Just another reason for being out of your mind.
Monsters
Counter the ugliness you see in the world with your beauty. Not more ugliness!
Recently I placed a post on Facebook that I regularly do daily and have been doing for several years now. I receive many comments and always try to engage with those who take the time to respond or comment but on occasion, feedback is given or questions asked that I feel need to be shared with a broader audience. Not only for clarity’s sake but because of a connection to world events and affairs that we humans take extremely serious is being questioned in light of the message I share in my posts. This is one such response and my response in return. I’ve changed the names to protect privacy but extend my appreciation to this responder for speaking what many are thinking but are perhaps too inhibited from expressing!
Here is the original post: “Give way to the mystery that is the foundation of your experience. Embrace love instead, and whatever unfolds, it will carry you through. Lighten the load of all that you feel you must shoulder, especially the burdens of heavy thoughts and resentments. The less you have to think about the less you have to fear.
Ease, always, into life with your wits, kindness, and smile. Life will smile back. Incredible day, Carl”
I received many responses to the post but one seemed particularly heartfelt about the near impossibility of living in such a way amid her view of what’s wrong politically in our country (USA). Particularly with our President, Donald Trump. Here is her (I’m calling her Marie) response:
“Carl, I know this to be true…tell me how to get thru all these heart heavy feelings of hate and anger towards our resident WhiteHouse monster? It’s killing my hope.”
I will make a disclaimer before sharing my response with Marie that I tend to be very direct and to the point when responding to these kinds of questions and may appear to be blunt and insensitive but I want to make the point clear that few if anything we point to at the outside world is ever a reason for us to have our, as Marie states, “hope” being killed. I will say that most who bear the brunt of my responses are good-natured about it and take it in good stride and I appreciate it. I, in no way, am trying to embarrass or offend but I do want it clear that certain things will get a lot of emphasis in my responses and almost all of those are related to the ego nature that is, very simply, “I am right and you are wrong, and that my joy, peace and happiness is a product of your rightness not being the same as my rightness, making you wrong and me right, but, miserable.”
Here is my response:
“Our resident WhiteHouse monster? You’re making stuff up, Marie, which is what our minds do and it is done under the guise that what you think someone else thinks is actually important. In response to your question, first and foremost, the “resident WhiteHouse monster” doesn’t exist, and more, to the point, “it” [your WhiteHouse Monster] has not done anything to me [or you] that prevents me [or you] from living fully and loving completely! Even those [others] we label “monsters!
Don’t look for things to get upset about because that is all you will ever find. Ego makes stuff up. Disengage your ego from what you think is going on that “kills your hope,” and all that is left is the love YOU are. It’s hard, I know but just like you mention, “I know this to be true” there’s nothing to “get through” except the nightmare you create in your own mind. Stop listening to others who tell you there are monsters about and that you need to feel anger and hatred and sadness and all the other BS they want to you to accept! You know, there are no monsters! We all do.
I literally love everyone, Marie and I don’t label anyone. Labeling carries a guide, a program as to how you should feel when you do label. I’m so, sorry for this scold, Marie. You and one other has commented in such a way that tells me that you are heavy into contemplation about “how [do] we love what we hate.” It’s tough and I don’t have a pat answer. I just don’t make stuff up! I look at my experience and never judge it! I just live it and it always comes through with wonder, amazement and unspeakable joy. I live without hope and I live without beliefs because both are “made up.” What is, is where it’s at and I do not cloud it with the unreal and if you’re “hearing it” it’s unreal. I love you dear one. I want you to always know that. You, and you alone, own your hate. Try loving it into non-existence! Heart hugs!”
I will conclude with one little add. Far too, many in the spiritual genre, consider their politics, whatever they may be, to be “spiritual” and take great pleasure in reminding those of “other” points of view their, so-called “spiritual” nobility. They could not be more misguided and I will add that this applies as well to religious beliefs, education, and class. Nothing is more egoic and insidious and completely unenlightened. The collective ego is always less than the sum of its lowest parts. It is the lowest form of human affiliation and it doesn’t matter what or who you affiliate with. Be careful. Love is without right or wrong and it is the only solution to nonexistent “monsters,” egos, (yours, mine, everyone’s) create. As my original Facebook post says” Ease, always, into life with your wits, kindness, and smile. Life will smile back. Incredible day, Carl.”