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Nothing exposes ego like another ego. “I am right, and you are wrong” is the battleground for ego, and it is always a battle. Even if placation is used to lower tension, e.g., “we’ll just have to agree to disagree.” If you find yourself in that field, you’ve been exposed. Not to worry, however, we’ve all been exposed! There is no right, and there is no wrong except the side that you happen to be on, in which case you are wrong. Ego’s checkpoints are: Are you speaking or gesturing? Are you thinking, imagining, or dreaming? Are you engaged in all other forms of communication, including writing? All of these are fraught with ego.

I know, I know, I’m in trouble, but you don’t have to be. Checking your ego regularly avoids many unnecessary and silly battles.

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Those who continuously look outward for safety, comfort, and answers to their minds’ fears, suffering, and travails, never seem to notice the stone they trip over. It is easy to point “out there” while nursing your bruised and stubbed toes, but until you see the stone you trip over as an obstacle, you place in your path, you are going to have sore feet for a long time. Every single thing, person, institution, etc., you denigrate, revile, and curse, is you kicking stones with bare feet with the silly expectation that looking beyond them is, somehow, stepping over them. Your feet tell you otherwise.
Simply, anything, anyone that turns your love into hate, anger, or sadness is not worth your reaction to it. Love, in any circumstance, is non-negotiable.

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Consciousness is just another thing co-opted by your ego that it can have more of than someone else and feed its need to be right and everyone else wrong. It comes with a scale you can use to judge yourself and others, which fuels its condescending nature. “Is your consciousness ‘raised’ to the level of someone you look up to in spiritual, social, psychological, or intellectual circles? No? “Well, you’d better work on that,” or “you can get there too.” Do you see? The modern-day love affair with consciousness is coupled to “rules” no different than the varying rules of philosophical, political, and religious institutions that make you better only because you know the rules. There are no rules of consciousness. There are no rules at all. If we are one, then we are all one consciousness, and no part of it is better or worse than any other. There simply are no parts.
Raising consciousness is condescension. That is “raising ego,” and that is not a way to spirituality or awareness. Being married to “what is” with love and reverence makes you aware, but never “better.”

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Collective consciousness is “out there,” and if you feed it, you are its “monkey.” That is, not unlike your own “monkey mind,” screeching and howling to a constant beat, whether you consider it good or annoying, plays into the field of what new agers call the collective. And the collective mind is no different than the individual mind, e.g., egoic. Look at the side you’re on in any collective cause, and its only theme is your cause is the right one, and everyone else is wrong. Your added voice-only fuels the already noisy, vitriolic rhetoric spewed at those whom you and your collective consider wrong.
Love loves without condescension, judgment, or moral superiority, and always with transparency. It has no ego and, therefore, cannot be joined to a collective ego. We are witnesses to a lot of ego in the “collective,” but it is not the collective that is sick. It is you and me and anyone (everyone) who takes a side and forsakes love in doing so. Love it all, including “us” and especially “them,” or be another monkey in an endless, unwinnable, clamor for rightness. Isn’t there enough noise without adding yours? Besides, the “quiet” is so lovely.

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Your opinion matters least of all in human affairs. What you know, believe, trust in, or hope for is no prize and might even be considered a joke. What you don’t know shows up as humility, kindness, reverence, and compassion. Not words or thoughts; just tenderness. Now there’s a prize! Love expresses most clearly when the ghosts of opinion are not haunting you. Speak less, love more. It’s that simple.

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You cannot hate for “no” reason. The very nature of hate is so-called reason brewed in a cauldron of beliefs, conjecture, points of view, and ideology. Some would say love’s opposite is hate or fear, but it is not so because love is an essence indistinguishable from any “other” known source. Like the sun, love shines on and caresses all opinions, divisions, judgments, you or anyone else has. If you hate or fear, you have a reason; if you love, you don’t. You don’t act out of love; you love, and acts form from its nectar. Love is sweetness without the sweetener. Go crazy, sprinkling it!

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If the side you take doesn’t include all sides, you’re on the wrong side. Love has no spoils, colors, creeds, religion, or division. In other words, the only side to love is just love.

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The new-age notion of surrounding yourself with others like you or finding those who vibrate at your level is discrimination and prejudice. It is your ego’s judgment of another, in modern terms, that makes it seem okay. It’s not! You can be the caring hands, the loving voice for another who is not like you, and integrate them into your heart. Who knows, they may take you into theirs. But you can’t be the voice for everyone who is like or unlike you. That makes you nothing more than another voice screaming with all the others while the “one” you could love and embrace now is without your light (vibration) and you without theirs.
Your ego is most deceptive when the collective noise of discrimination screams the loudest. Don’t join in. There’s plenty of noise already, but there are too few of those who aren’t screaming to embrace the “ones” who need only you to love them. Loving those unlike you is a “high” vibration!

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Your causes, beliefs, and life principles have far more power when your life reflects them at all times and in all places. How easy it is to put on display disdain for the “other” and return to safety and comfort at the end of a good demonstration. Do you see? You cannot say your cause matters when its propagation reviles the very reason it became a cause. Hate, fear, violence, and exclusion, to bring about one, will not replace those who love the other. Appeasement is not acceptance; it is fear. Love finds its way through fear; it is the only thing that can.
Love in your heart lives love. Always, without exception or equivocation.

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Your point of view is your tyranny; thus, it is your point of distraction. That is, you’re right, and everybody else is wrong, separates you from the whole to which you belong. No Point of view is worth the divide between brother and sister, especially if it comes with anger and unkindness. Things like love, compassion, kindness, joy, mercy, and grace are innate in each of us, but they only surface when we are free from the distractions of right and wrong. So, stop the game of being right or wrong.
Let the “innate” that already is your nature be your only face. Such a face repels no one.

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