You create a “virtual reality” whenever you think, wish, hope, dream, or desire how things should be. Do you see? “What is” is without thought of any kind and is entirely unalterable because you think it should be “other” than it is. There is nothing “real” about “virtual.” There is only experience of which you are the critical component. Nothing more is needed (especially your thoughts) to experience the real; nothing “virtual” will compare. Get out of your mind.
Bozebits
Don’t dismiss life with statements such as, “There’s nothing I can do about this, or I must learn from that, ” etc. Such statements are spiritual gobbledygook and an apathetic way to allow suffering, which is likely what you want anyway. YOU are life itself, and nothing exists without your experience of it. In other words, when it comes to life, you are smack in it regardless of what you are experiencing. Ultimately, life is living you, not the other way around. Give it all you’ve got with the exception of what you think it should be!
Bozebits
Are you living life or are you looking for reasons (messages) in the things you experience (live)? I hope it’s “living.”