The time to stop judging is when you feel most like doing so, which is all the time for most humans. Judging doesn’t put someone else in a corner; it just puts you more firmly in your own. Do you see?
You make the separation from others for little more than inane reasons that reflect learning, beliefs, prejudices, and various other follies humans wrap themselves up in. All at the cost of the innate characteristic everyone possesses to love “life.” That is life, which is all-inclusive of everything and everyone regardless of how you see things, e.g., every cause or belief you hold that takes you from your innate nature to love, including yourself.
In simple terms, you cannot judge and love. Not wholly and purely. It’s not the age-old narrative that you are judged as you judge others. No, it’s that your love drains from you when you do. Oh, and don’t condescend either, with the infamous diatribe that “they (whomever you judge) aren’t at your level of spirituality, education, or maturity. That’s just a sneaky form of judgment as well. All that’s left, really is “don’t judge,” ever!
Bozebits
Psychology, spirituality, and religion seek to give identity to the “problem,” whatever it may be, e.g., neurosis, morality, sin, etc. Whether individually or collectively, identity all too often becomes the “excuse” for behavior rather than the path to healing it. Do you see?
“I now know what my problem is called, and that makes it okay or certainly not my fault because, after all, ‘the devil made me do it.’” All the while, the reality you project and dislike remains, and the ensuing story of this new identity (excuse) begins. The fact is you’re not the identity you have been labeled. You’re the real deal, meaning if you’re a schmuck, you’re a schmuck regardless of the reasons for being so.
It takes a lot of work to be angry, unhappy, rude, mean, unkind, unloving, etc. Having reasons for such states is not an excuse for not doing the work to overcome them. Own what you are, and if you don’t like it, fix it. You’re the only one who can. Transformation to reality happens within but shows its magic without. Resolve to show the magic only you have.
Bozebits
Shouting your position does little more than make you accessible to those at whom you shout. That is, you expose your vulnerabilities, and vulnerability arises from ignorance. It is not intellectual ignorance but the kind that has been taken over by your mind that refuses to see that YOU are other than your shouting attempts to project. Contrasted by “what YOU are,” outcry is but a mask you wear (we all wear) to hide the gulf that is not filled by anything you say, believe, dream, or wish.
“Awareness” only hears what YOU are and nothing you say. There is never cause enough to raise your voice or your ire. It’s always clear when “what YOU are” is in the foreground of your thoughts. There’s less shouting, too. What are you? I’d love to “not” hear.
Bozebits
Imposing your rules on life only serves to interfere with it, and not for the better. Imagine your fist raised against a river’s flow, demanding it change its course. Oh, the hubris to think you have any control over anything. Silly!
Observe “what is” with humility and quiet. Life un-interfered-with is not something you wrestle with by applying your version of what it should be. Instead, it is something to behold with reverence and awe.
Bozebits
The most generous giving is giving up anything that creates a baseline for you to judge another. That’s pretty much everything you believe “giving” is. Maybe everything you believe altogether.
In other words, give nothing but yourself. Anything else is a compromise for not knowing “what YOU are.
Bozebits
In a world of choices, hate wins, too, and we all go one way or another. No “choice” ever needs to be made when you are love and you are love. Love doesn’t win; it just is, and there is no choice.
Bozebits
Remembering is the alter-ego of forgetting. Forgiveness’s elemental power is freeing you to know “what YOU are,” but that can’t happen if you hang on to things that take you from it, e.g., all that you remember.
Sure, you can move on, but without forgetting, the anchor of remembering grows more massive, and the power of forgiveness fades under the weight. The loss is only yours, and it is an enormous loss. Forgive and forget; if you don’t, you’ll never “remember” YOU!
Bozebits
A fundamental aspect of quantum physics, called “uncertainty,” says that observation affects outcome, e.g., you can know either place or time but not both. In spiritual terms, observance of life is more impactful and less stressful than trying to force it into one direction or another. In other words, far more happens by observing than pushing for an outcome that is uncertain to begin with.
Stop trying to know what is going on. You don’t and never will. No one does, and everything you already believe you know about life should be put aside, as well, because life fools the one who thinks they have some control and unfolds beautifully, albeit mysteriously, for those who know they don’t. Observance has significant effect but is also a constant surprise.
Bozebits
Weakness in others is always more apparent than strengths, as we are conditioned early on to be aware of our own, making it easy to point out in others. However, “pointing out” is a deflection from yourself and presumably a haven from others’ discovery that “what you point at” is what you are. You create those you attack just as you do those you uphold and praise.
Creative power is the same either way, but only you disguise one over the other. Are you beginning to see where “division” comes from? It’s not out there in the noise of so-called “weakness.” It’s in what you call your strength. Create and love your creations without distinction; all of them! Love of all heals all.
Bozebits
What you say about anyone says more about you than the reality you think you are expressing. There is but one side to any one of us worthy of expression, if at all, and that is, we are Gods, steeped in human form and experience. You can be the love that is only expressed in the God you are or the human who is judgmental, egoic, and easily waylaid by collective streams of consciousness.
It doesn’t matter which way you go, but I promise you, Gods have way more fun, no stress, and endless joy. Oh, and Gods don’t choose; they create “what they are,” continually smiling at the silliness of the human forms they experience. Is that YOU, smiling?