“Words hurt,” it is often said, but they only hurt because we have been conditioned to live by the opinions of others. Do you see? What is beyond human ego is never disturbed, offended, hurt, or angered by what other egos think or say. Hurtful words are egoic and can only hurt another ego, which is not what YOU are. In other words, only egos- that is, your ego care about the thoughts expressed by others. “Words hurt,” but only because you (your ego) think they mean something. Take what you think out of the words you hear; words ring in your ears because your ears are ringing. The ringing stops when your thinking stops, and the clash of egos is nothing more than the folly of humans making something real out of nothing.
Bozebits
In your efforts to “become,” make sure “you,” that is, the real you, are who you become. Too often, we are told that to be a certain way, to gain personal wealth, achievement, or station in life, we should surround ourselves with others who possess the same or similar traits or imitate them; you know, “Act as if.” Becoming what you aren’t is too great a loss, and such endeavors cost far too much. In the end, no one asks you who you became; they only know “what you are, or “what you pretend to be.” Don’t pretend; be “you” always. You’ll always be better at “you” than some imitation!
Bozebits
The closest you will ever get to “balance in your life” is the instantaneous pass-through from one side of life to the other. In other words, balance is a mental invention that convinces you you can “teeter” between its versions of good or bad. It’s a “balancing act” no one, including you, will ever realize. Why? Life is not a teeter-totter; it’s an experience. That experience is impervious to your or anyone’s sense of fairness and equilibrium. Humans have a perverse sense of right and wrong, e.g., “opposites,” when life is what it is without a notion of balance. Seriously, can you imagine just sitting on a swing and not swinging? And once you’re swinging, the pass-through from one side to the other is not even noticeable. All you’re doing is swinging, and for many of us, screaming whee! Scream at life if you must, but don’t judge it. Ride whatever arc you are on for all its worth. There is no balance. Get on that swing and let it fly. Make your living the ride of your life!
Bozebits
Your mind is a dawdler that keeps you on the hook by convincing you that all that you desire, strive to become, and seek will surely come about if you just wait a little longer, have a little more faith and hope, do this thing or that, or commit yourself to certain gurus, teachers, or philosophies. And all the while, “what is” slips into the abyss never to be seen or heard from again, except in your mind. As long as you believe you have somewhere to go other than here, now, your mind will dawdle, and you will stay hooked on fantasy and, sadly, miss the greatest spectacle in the universe. That is, the universe YOU create this moment, but “think” should be something else. Stop thinking, and the dawdling stops. See what you’ve created; best of all, it didn’t take a single thought!
Bozebits
It is unimportant, unnecessary, and perhaps even harmful to carry the erroneous idea that you can do anything you set your mind to. You know it’s untrue; everyone does, so why hold onto such nonsense? What YOU are, outside what you think, is having a finite human experience that ends when human form ends. You do not carry with YOU the nuttiness of the human mind that makes stuff up to appease its fear of the unknown.
Live with what you’ve got and take only what you get, and by all means, don’t make stuff up. That’s where perfection lies, and YOU are perfection. Abide in the mystery no human mind can comprehend, and live every moment to its fullest, no matter what it is. What YOU are is simply on a joy ride! You should enjoy it too!
Bozebits
Awareness can only be experienced. You cannot possess it like a car, a house, or an education. Possession is the endgame of all searches, and “finding” what you seek is the end of awareness. Do you see? Fixation, attachment, beliefs, and ritual cause stagnation, and living, which is wild and crazy, mysterious, and uncertain, always takes a hit when you make a claim to any formula or particular way. The infinite cannot be corralled into the finite scope of your mind, and “what YOU are” first, before a single thought, is infinite.
If you must search, may it lead you nowhere; that, at least, is much closer to awareness than anything or anywhere you think you need to get otherwise.
Bozebits
You and you alone give life meaning! Don’t look for life to have meaning for you! We have it all backward. Humans obsess over finding reasons for the life they are living when, in reality, life lives us. Did you get that? Life lives YOU! Nothing exists without YOU. If there is a purpose for living, then YOU are the maker of that purpose! Do you see? There is nothing you’re supposed to be or do, nor is there a right or wrong formula for doing it, and nothing you experience has purpose or meaning because YOU give meaning to life. YOU do not need to seek life; life seeks YOU! So let it find you by dropping all your reasons for finding it.
Bozebits
The truth of you, as told in the story you tell, is not the real story of you. It’s what you don’t tell. Ego needs to claim its victories over life’s tribulations, its comebacks, and rising from the ashes, but it does so to paint over the real, which is untold. No ego is humble enough to reveal the truth. That’s just its nature. So what to do?
The best story is no story. You express what YOU are by living what is, as is, and all that needs telling is alive and real without embellishment, and all who actually hear quietly marvel. That’s because what YOU are is marvelous, despite the story you think others must hear. Plain and simple. Nothing you say speaks louder than what YOU are.
Bozebits
Firstly, in matters of the heart, never, ever, ever speak your mind. Your mind gets it wrong one hundred percent of the time. Secondly, all matters are matters of the heart. Shh…
Bozebits
Finding beauty in everything opens your mind to what your heart already knows. There is literally beauty and wonder in everything you experience, and all of it is worthy of your love and awe. Cease all thoughts about your experience, what it means, or why it’s happening. Just embrace it, all of it!! Regardless of the experience, it is really amazing!! Breathtakingly amazing!