It is a fallacy to assume you “see people as they are.” At best, you only see what you think, which is always wrong. What is not a fallacy is that what you think of others is the small, constant leak of your power and never-ending connection to the unreal. In other words, you cannot know “what YOU are” if you think you possess the mental tools to know someone else.
Life moves without reason or opinion, and its power is vast enough for all that is, whether you get it or not. However, it will elude you entirely if you think you actually “get it.” Stopping your leakage means containing the thought that you have the unique ability to see the leaks in others. All that leakage—what a mess! Do some cleanup on yourself.