Bozebits

Psychology, spirituality, and religion seek to give identity to the “problem,” whatever it may be, e.g., neurosis, morality, sin, etc. Whether individually or collectively, identity all too often becomes the “excuse” for behavior rather than the path to healing it. Do you see?
“I now know what my problem is called, and that makes it okay or certainly not my fault because, after all, ‘the devil made me do it.’” All the while, the reality you project and dislike remains, and the ensuing story of this new identity (excuse) begins. The fact is you’re not the identity you have been labeled. You’re the real deal, meaning if you’re a schmuck, you’re a schmuck regardless of the reasons for being so.
It takes a lot of work to be angry, unhappy, rude, mean, unkind, unloving, etc. Having reasons for such states is not an excuse for not doing the work to overcome them. Own what you are, and if you don’t like it, fix it. You’re the only one who can. Transformation to reality happens within but shows its magic without. Resolve to show the magic only you have.