Humans give away too much power to the confusion generated by their minds that seek “reasons and whys” where none exist. They even buy into the added confusion sown by others doing the same thing.
The majority of thinking, yours and theirs (mine too), is repetition and a drone playing on and on without any allowance for something new and real that lies beyond the chatter. It’s a wonder we even call it thinking and perhaps another reason not to give credence to what others “think” of you, me, us, or anything else. Most of our so-called thinking isn’t thinking! Do you see?
The only thought worth having is “no thought.” It starts in exquisite silence, and if allowed to remain so without running through a gauntlet of mind-based repetition, awareness pops out. Now, that might be something to (not) think about.